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Most stressful problems are really the absence of ideas,problems cause stress and abnormal blood pressure, so it is very logical that once we reduce our problems ,we should be able to reduce our stress and abnormality of blood pressure,incidently we cant avoid or eliminate problems unless we decide for the final exit,the very thought of this,itself is very stressful!
why do we have problems? well,roughly speaking,1/3 of our problems are there because we are alive and kicking; another 1/3 of our problems are created by ourselves,and the remaining 1/3 of our problems exist because of our laalach and izzat ( greed & ego ).
Now if we have a magic wand ,we can solve our problems ,we stupidly search for one when none exists !
what to do ? well ,I o not know at all,but i can tell you what i do !
Read again what i have said,and you will realize yourself that by merely understanding life and by reflecting on its problems ,you will be able to reduce your problems in focus.
It wont be done instantly ,slowly but steadily,one by one,take care of each problem by looking for simple,simple ideas to arrive at solutions.
Remember not to make "best" the enemy of "better" To solve silly problems,even the second or third best solution can be good enough.
In particular,when too many problems are causing you enormous stress and strain do the following:
1. Think ........ there must be a better way to solve these problems,it helps to remember the crow and jug story ! recall similar stories and incidents.
2. Ask ask ,ask..... from yourself and from others,how to do things,in better ways,Maybe certain things should not be done at all,or should be clubbed with other activities ! Dont forget that even stupid questions will get you intelligent and common sense answers.
3. Do it now! start doing it,Dont forget that the first step towars solving a problem is to begin.I agree that the first step is the most difficult one,but taking it will kill procrastination,a desease or a problem in itself,Ofcourse do not forget to prioritise your problems first,Those which are 'C' category jobs should be delegated to others, but do not forget to check and recheck till these get done.
What will people say ,
Most of the time we are stressful as we are always thinking about what people will say if we fail in our examinations,if we are badly dressed; if our hair is not well groomed;and so on.
well not that anyone else can do much about it,we have to do it for ourselves Let me help you. Never loose your selfrespect ,because if you loose it,you have lost all,one who cannot respect himself cannot expect to be respected by others.
Failure causes stress ...... lots of stress but for a wise man,failure is not falling down but staying down , failure is not the end of dreams .... it is only the begining, Failure teaches succes.If you are open to new ideas and consider failure to be stepping stones to succes. A man can fail many times but he is not a real failure until he begins to blame anyone else. stress leads to failure.
There was one man in this world who beleived in all that i have said above,and who has become a "lighthouse" for millions of stresfull people who followed him.His name was Abraham Lincoln. Just have a look on his resume.
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Age 22...... Failed legislature and was defeated.
Age 23...... ran for legislature and was defeated.
Age 24...... failed again in buisness.
Age 25..... elected to legislature.
Age 26..... sweetheart died.
Age 27..... had a nervous breakdown.
Age 29.... defeated for speaker.
Age 31 .... defeated for elector.
Age 34..... defeated for congress.
Age 37.... elected to congress.
Age 39..... defeated for congress
Age 46... defeated for senate
Age 47.... defeated for vice president
Age 49.... defeated for senate
Age 51..... Elected for president of the united states of america....
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Abraham lincoln did not bother about what people said about himwhen he failed. Even when he became president people still criticised him, but instead of becoming stressful he expressed his deathless line .... " No man is good enough to be president,but someone has to be ".
Lincoln would certainly have beleived in the fact that a failure is an oppurtunity for a man who has kept his selfrespect intact. Now, thinking the lincoln way and trying to be happy will give you happiness while you are going about acheiveing it. you do not have to worry what others think about your failure! they are too busy thinking about there own failures, Each steps towards succes can give happines if you are trying to do it bit by bit,creatively as well as imaginatively.
Creative thinking can be done when your selfimage is intact. you can face people as well as other auditors in life,your self image is in your mind.your self image improves when you have good family relations, good moral standards,good freinds, enough cash when you love what you do for a living , follow the essentials of your religion, and so on,Nurture your self esteem by helping other people.
Myself image is very important to me remain stressfree! I make sure that i feel good aboutmyself most of the time,I acheive it by reminding myself of my own succes over the years, and keeping a list of succes handy! what i think of myself at any moment depends upon my own thinking in my mind and my own feelings in my heart.
Do what you think is right and know that it was right.
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kaanak srivastava
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bahut achcha likha hai...
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